Are NYers rude ? ToastMasters Speech # 6

INTRODUCTION

In my experience, many people believe that New Yorkers are smarter than fellow Americans,.Since we all are in NY now we can happily agree on that. Many people also believe that many NYers are also rude. Now that is something not a very pleasant thing to agree on.

i would like to go over instances where NYers are rude and then a few instances where the Nyers are not rude but the characteristic of NY makes them appear as rude. /

1. opposing players scores home rub in yankee stadium - "who is your daddy' against phili pitcher pedro

2. the rash driving of nyc taxi drivers and scolding the pedestrians and fellow drives " Get out of the way, you young moron!"

solution :

When the taxi driver from hell almost runs you down in the cross walk, then commences to rolling down his window to hurl an insult, keep walking. Ignorance is bliss in New York City.

APPEAR

1. The hardship and fast pace of an urban life.The majority of New Yorkers, then, are people who left another place and came here, looking for something, which suggests that the population is preselected for higher energy and ambition. to everyone's surprise space and time are precious commodity to a new yorker.

2. It's a culture, a crowded city with limited space requires different ways of operating. To get on the subway before the doors close on a crowded train one sometimes has to push.........perhaps to a non-new yorker this is rude.

3. New Yorkers spend more time up in each other’s faces in public, and thus feel comfortable being familiar with one another, . So we’re less inhibited when it comes to telling strangers they’re annoying the hell out of us.

//5.The feeling of insecurity created by sharp divide between rich and poor.

In my personal experience, people have been polite with me.People will hold doors for others.

I have also seen cases whereas people would give up their subway seat for a person that has many packages, a small child, elderly person, pregnant lady, etc.

In 2006 Readers digest conducted a test to see people of which city are more polite and helpful

We walked into public buildings 20 times behind people to see if they would hold the door open for us.

• We bought small items from 20 stores and recorded whether the sales assistants said thank you.

• We dropped a folder full of papers in 20 busy locations to see if anyone would help pick them up.

To allow us to compare cities, we awarded one point for each positive outcome and nothing for a negative one, giving each city a maximum score of 60. We did not attempt a strict scientific survey; it was the world’s biggest real-life test of common courtesy, with more than 2,000 tests of actual behavior.

conclusion ; no doubt like any other big city Ny has its own share of rude people.But To say Nyers in general are rude is going too far. . Their characteristic nature of being busy may give such an impression of being rude. Infact many may turn out to be polite and helpful personality as they survey suggests.

Para Sailing in Cape May New Jersey : ToastMasters Speech # 5

I would like share with you my first experience of Parasailing . I did parasail only for 20 min , but the experience would stay in my mind for ever.It was independence day weekend this summer and I did not make any special plans . When one of my colleague suggested a place called cape may in s jersey , I was attracted to it. cape may is a small town with a lot of water activities such as jet skiin , para sailing etc..

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We started early in the morning around Seven for this place, we still got stuck in traffic.

If you want to punish someone Please have them drive through NJ state highways in one of the long weekends. The traffic was as bad as we see in NYC, if not even worse. At many points the cars were just idle on the road. and we were mostly moving at the speed that we do in City roads. We reached the place in afternoon and booked for the only available slot @ 4 PM it looked like a perfect day for an out door activity.

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The instructors took us to weell 20 minutes into the sea in Winchboat. it is a powerboat that incorporates a winch system to launch and retrieve parasailors from the boat.The sea was very rough on that day. It was very windy day too .The waves soared in every direction possible and with Winchboat going at a good speed we had water splashing from either side. I have read novels, seen movies where in the protogonist sails through the sea . I felt as though i am one of those characters in for an adventure.

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. We then stopped it in the middle of the ocean and then prepared the parasail . parasail is nothing but a canopy attached to a floating chair for ppl to sit .the canopy is connected by rope to a hydraulic winch mounted on the towboat.as the rope is loosen and the winch boat accelerates the parasail flies skyward .

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there were 3 pairs on the boat.each pair is supposed to parasail for 15-20 minutes.Unfortuantely my friend i was the first pair. To prepare for the ascend ,We had to squat in one small part of the boat and sit on the floating chair. The ascend is usually the most adventurous part. It gives the feel as though we are flying.we were put up @ half d maximum possible altitude and then we moved slowly to the atmost possible altitude. the wnd blowing had a sooting effect on my body.I looked down on the waves, the sands, and the buildings. The sight of blue color filled me with joy. At that particular height i could see ocean till its furthest end. the ocean converged with the sky. All the high rise building on the shore was looking like tiny ones.Once u r at the top i realise how tiny the mankind when compared to the ocean.I wishfully thought that time would freeze.b

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In our descent back , we were held at half d altitude and and in one quick moment we were dipped us in the ocean at the hip level. I am a kind of person who is afraid of sharks and never would try swimming in the sea. So to me it is the best way to get dipped in atlantic.

I would definely recommend this activity for 3 reasons

1. enjoy the beautiful scenic view of the place.Some parasailing are done in the valley and some on the sea shore

2. fell the soothing effect of the breeze

3. will also be a simulation of what to do when we fall from airplane using a parachute.

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I would never try a very adventorous activitykies something such as bungee jumping or as it is very scarier. Parasailing gives similar views and thrills as bungee jumping and at the same time a lot safer . It is an activity where you can invite family and friends alike and enjoy a great experience of flying through the air.I would definely encourage you all to try your hand at parasailing some day.

thank you

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We started early in the morning around Seven for this place. By d time we had breakfast and hit the highway the roads were already busy .

By d time we reached the place, we already missed our scheduled slot. So we recheduled our appointment and explored Cape May . It is a samll town with economy looked it is based out of water recreational activities. We had our safety instructions then were on a boat to with our instructors.

Table Topics # 1

1. Paul Krugman concluded is column on dubai crisis stating that " We are living in interesting times indeed " - Do you agree ?

2. Last weekend has been Thanks giving weekend . If there is one person in this world you would like to thank whom would it be and why ?

3. Geico has an ad in which a caveman dressed in shirt and pant comes out running removing his shirt with the back ground score singing " Let me be Myself ". i liked the ad very much and decided to make it as a topic . Your topic is " Let me be myself".

4. if you could go back in time and talk to yourself at the age of ten, what advice would you give yourself?

5. If the world is going to end in 2012 and you are the only person to know it and you know that you cannot stop it. hw will you spend the remaining time till jan 1 2012?

6. Everyone should be a volunteer

7.Today is Worlds AIDs day. 2009 World AIDS day theme is Universal Access and Human Rights

Do you think Corporate companies do enough to create awareness on AIDS ? If not , how can Corporate companies contribute more ?

8.Thanks to the Interstate Highway System, it is now possible to travel from coast to coast without seeing anything.

- Charles Kuralt

9. We Can Not Stop Illegal Immigration From Mexico.- what is your opinion on this ?

10.Banking establishments are more dangerous than standing armies.

- Thomas Jefferson

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10. One never notices what has been done; one can only see what remains to be done.

- Marie Curie

Neuro Linguistic Programming ; ToastMasters Speech # 4

The objective of my speech is to introduce the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP and explain one particular technique . In 1970s its founders were marketing NLP as a business tool, claiming that 'if any human being can do anything, so can you'. As you can see NLP has three terms - 1. Neuro 2. Linguistic or launguage 3. Programming.neurological processes ('neuro'), language ('linguistic') and behavioral patterns that have been learned through experience ('programming') . NLP was coined to denote that these three terms can be organised to achieve specific goals in life.

NLP was originally promoted as an form of psychological therapy . Its founders found patters in the approach of successful psychologist and formed a common methodology for psychologists. Since then NLP practitioners have found many more techniques and have applied this concept to many scenarios. Today i will explain one particular NLP technique.

There are five input channels or senses we use in our communication.Of which People in general use three senses Predominantly - Sight , hearing and Touch.Personalities can be classified into 3 types - Visual,Auditory and Kinesthetic based on the predominant sense they use for communication . This Technique here is to identify a persons thinking system and ‘speak their language’, so that you to connect with him/her at a deeper level.

Let me explain each type personality type in detail

The first type is Visual

1.visual people will have a tendency to get our attention, because they are well dressed in bright colors; or their facial expressions and gestures will attract us.

2. they will use predicates which conveys visual image - For example Sentences such as "See what I mean ?",I can't imagine "

3. The principal values of the visual modality are dynamism and perfection.With dynamism we refer to the speed of visual intelligence. Perfectionism comes from having strong visual images, and experiences discomfort when in the presence of ugly or unfinished things.

the second type is Auditory

1. Auditory Personality types are more dominant in the auditory channel

2. The would use predicates such as Sound,hear. For example they would say sentences such as " Ok Got it Lound and CLear","You definitely sound very strong

3. The principal values held by those with auditory dominance are self belief and hard work inspite of adversity.

The third Type is Kinesthetic

1. A kinesthetic uses personal and more intimate words and words which convey feelings .

2. They wud use predicates such as "Feel","Hold",say sentences such as " I like how you finalised the deal " , " Lets keep in touch "

3. They would want to feel every time they hear something .

Knowing a person's favourite thinking system enables you to literally 'speak their language' which, in turn, enhances rapport with that person.

Let's say you and I are having a business meeting. Both of us speak good English but your native language is French. Now, although you can understand my English, if I begin speaking excellent French it will significantly change the dynamics of the conversation . You will find it easier to understand the subtleties and nuances of what I am saying and are also likely to unconsciously feel better disposed towards me.

In the same way if you are more at home with your kinaesthetic sense and I am more at ease with my visual sense we can still converse easily. However if I switch to discussing and describing in a more kinesthetic manner the dynamics of our interaction will improve.

There are many such NLP techniques.If there is a problem between you and your boss, there is a NLP solution to tackling it. There is a NLP approach to do well in a job interview and build rapport with the prospective employers. NLP practitioners have designed methodology even to pick a lady at a party. I encourage all to learn more NLP Techniques and apply the same in Day to Day Life.

These Four Years!!

I am leaving for Mdu today ..I officially complete the degree.only the formalities of applting for TC and PC remains ..SO i will have to come back in a week or two . Well i used to wonder wat i have done in these four years ..But to my disappointment nothing ..Literally nothing..Three semesters have gone in SQC..TWo semester playing Chess ..One in CAT ...and Last semester just like that ..The third semester where i learnt a bit of IT ..and seventh semester were the only useful semesters in my coll lif ..apart from that my time has not added upto excel . I will have to compensate for this time in future ..One needs to continously work hard in life ..Its always the combination of fastness of hare and sincerity of Tortoise ..I have gained a lot of exposure in Quizzing .. Hope I wbuild from this Goodbye Chennai .The fond memories will stay on for ever !!

The Need To Excel

Every human is born to achieve something. He is satisfied only when he has outperformed others. The first time a man ran a mile under four min ,the first time he conquered Mt.Everest,the first time he swam across oceans , its all an achievemment in search of conquering naure realising huge potential lieing inside. Behind every success story there are hazaar failures .We read only stories of man who succeed as he is the only different person .The rest of us fall into the same category . What to these achievers have it different ? They are just made up of right components required tosucceed . They are at the right place at the right time to grab the oppurtunity . Those persons they stand out of the crowd . Given a situation these winners perform .others dont .There has got to be achievement in both curricula and extra curricula . One lets down the other for me and it ha become avc\icious cycle . I will have to stop sliding somewhere and start building up my talent in both proffessional and personal life . I am talented definitely .need right guidence and oppurtunity to realise that